Why Aren't My Orgasms as Powerful?

The issue of orgasms is one near and dear to our hearts. If you're not orgasming as intensity as you once did, you might feel a little unsatisfied to say the least. And if it's an issue of your own body or mind, that can be seriously frustrating! As a GetLusty (male) reader notes, he once had powerful, intense orgasms and now doesn't feel they're as strong. As always, we're here to serve you. So our resident sex therapist and counselor, Dr. Mousumi Ghose of LA Sex Therapist, answers his question thoroughly. Do you have questions of your own reply@getlusty.com.

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Dear GetLusty,

I have a question. It regards decreased ejaculate in older men. As a young man I very well could have been a feature player in adult films due to how forceful and how copious my ejaculations were. As an older man however I produce very little if any cum upon climax.

In addition, the intensity of my orgasms are significantly diminished. Which is a shame because I'm having the best sex I've ever had in my life and my girlfriend is extremely sexy and open everything sexual that I have ever fantasized about before we met. Particular anal. In fact, she's quite talented at it and enjoys it more than conventional penetration.

Yet, as hot as this is (and by hot I mean, whenever I masturbate to porn, ultimately I cum thinking of sex with her) I still have a very hard time maintaining an erection or reaching a climax. While Viagra works for the erectile problem, I've tried holding off sex or masturbation for days or even weeks in hopes that I could build up semen in my system. Unfortunately, this hasn't worked.

I eat a healthy diet, exercise regularly, drink moderately and am cutting back on smoking. I take blood pressure pills, but I'm not sure of the physiological effects that may have on this condition.

I really miss those powerful, squirting cums that I used to have.

Any advice or knowledge you might be able to share would be very greatly appreciated.

Signed,
Wants to Cum

Dear "Wants to Cum",

Thank you for your email. The age issue for male sexuality is a very important one. It's important to know that men's sexuality shifts and changes with time and with age. Boys and men in their late teens and 20's are what I like to call "walking erections." That is--they get erect almost seamlessly and have very few limits to their sexual functioning. They are also experiencing peaked hormones, which is not necessarily their natural state. As men grow older into their 30's and 40's, the shift they experience is more mellowing. This is actually a very natural state. Many men trip themselves up a lot by second guessing what is happening as, "negative", "unnatural" or "bad". They think something is "wrong" with them. Most of the time, this is untrue.

I would like to ask that you do visit with a medical professional. Sometimes, as we age, we do experience declining health in other areas. I know you mentioned you are healthy, doing exercise and maintaining good health habits. However, it's important to know that many medications do in fact effect your physiologically. Unfortunately, your sexuality is not divorced from the rest of your body. Check with your doctor, as the blood pressure medication may very well have side effects.

Otherwise, focus on the actions you can take. You already mentioned you are having the best sex of your life! Then what is the problem here? As a society we put so much emphasis on erections, intercourse and orgasm. That's barely sex at all. That's a very limited view of sex, when our bodies are capable of so much more pleasure. Get into a mindful practice where you are focused on feelings not on end goals.

Make a commitment to get into the touch, smell, taste, sights and sounds of the sexual interactions. Get creative, do more anal, as you mentioned, get kinky with your hands and mouth. Use all of your senses, consciously. Unfortunately holding off on masturbating and cumming to produce more cum later is not something I recommend either. It's not a case of being backed up or not, the more you do it, the more you increase your odds of great experiences. My suggestion is to enjoy the ride and forget about the destination.

Good luck,
Moushumi

This is a guest post from the well acclaimed Moushumi Ghose.

Moushumi Ghose is a Sex Therapist, Educator and Coach, Radio Host, Musician, and Filmmaker. She is licensed by the California Board of Behavioral  Science. She is a member of AASECT (American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists). Mou also has extensive experience working with a variety of populations and diverse lifestyles.

Moushumi recently completed an eBook on, "Marriage, Money and Porn." and writes extensively for numerous other sites ranging from Men's Fitness Magazine to GoodTherapy.org. Find her on Twitter @motor_amour, Facebook and her website LASexTherapist.com.

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Does Cum Cure Morning Sickness?

Many of our lusty readers are either thinking about conception or are in the process. There are so many ways to maximize your experience during pregnancy. For example, how about a more sensual pregnancy? And we all sometimes need to be reminded of useful kegel exercises. But what about cum? Is this actually true that semen cures morning sickness? GetLusty writer Marian Sanchez reports.

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According to Gordon Gallup, a psychology professor at the University of Albany-SUNY, there is a cure for morning sickness and its... Semen! But before you let your partner make a blowjob joke, or you roll your eyes, read this. Gallup's study interests include evolution and behavior, biology of interpersonal attractions and semen chemistry and behavior. He has published over 250 articles and has appeared in a few documentaries, one being The Science of Sex Appeal (2009).

His research findings? When a woman become pregnant, her body interprets her partners' semen like a virus which makes us ladies sick to our stomaches. (His alternative theory states it's not the food that is the problem, it's the foreign matter growing in your womb.) Gallup says to prevent further morning sickness, pregnant women should consume the baby's father's semen to help lessen the effects of an early pregnancy. Why? Because it will help inoculate the mother to better adjust to her pregnancy.

In short, the father of your child started this pregnancy with your help and now he can ease you're suffering if you are willing to swallow. Deep throat blowjob, anyone? Don't swallow that cucumber just yet. (Or, do. If you're passionate, deep throats are amazing!) Earlier this year, Jezebel noted that Salon.com writer Tracy Clark-Flory talked with no other than Gordon Gallup himself. And Gallup seemed to all but retract his semen-indused findings (noting they were largely correlational). Dear, me!

My personal take:

My pregnancy was fairly normal. When it came to oral sex, I had a difficult time being the giver during my first trimester due to exhaustion, vomiting (yes, morning sickness), work and school. At one point on a romantic trip with my husband, I even retched on him after the taste of his pre-cum hit my tongue. Kind of seems ironic that the thing that's supposed to make you feel better has such a reaction.

Once my life settled into the second trimester, sex became fun again. I noticed on occasions when giving my husband a blowjob, the taste of his ejaculation no longer twisted my insides and its unique flavor became enjoyable once more. However, even after reading up on Dr. Gordon Gallup, I can't say with any absolute certainty my morning sickness was completely abolished after every blowjob I gave simply because I never kept a sex or pregnancy journal. I was too busy being in the moment to take the time to write out my thoughts.

What about you? I am curious to know if any pregnant (past or current) ladies can remark on this topic! Did you give oral and did it settle your stomach?

This article was fashioned by GetLusty writer Marian Sanchez. Marian has many passions, writing being the oldest for her. When she isn't working on articles for GetLusty, she's with her amazing family and her five-cat herd. She enjoys all kinds of movies and TV, spending time with wonderful friends, going to Chicago metal shows and finding humor in everyday life. She has a horrible habit of wanting to learn all kinds of new things and going to different places. When it comes to sex, Marian has a raunchy good mouth and an open mind (which pleases her husband immensely).

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3 Steps to Giving an Amazing Prostate Orgasm (NSFW)

Men, we have already given you advice on how to have multiple orgasms. We've worked through penis anatomy, and reviewed by male orgasm is different from ejaculation. We even talked with prostate pleasure expert Charlie Glickman on prostate play. But let's talk more specifically about the prostate orgasm specifically. How does one have this amazing orgasm? How do we give it? The prostate is the doorway to your most intense and lengthy orgasms. Also read up on Prostate Milking 101 if you want to jump right into it. Here, Tia Champagne is bringing you some much needed information on the very often forgotten prostate and how you can give your partner the ultimate prostate orgasm!

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As you can see at GetLusty, there are tons of articles and medical research involved with understanding the vagina and female orgasm. But if you ever do a little research on the prostate, one of the main sexual organs of male mammals, there is not too much to be found. So, this article is written to shed some light on what it is, what it can do, and how you can make it do it.

Get acquainted with anatomy


A healthy prostate is about the size of a walnut and is smacked between the bladder and the penis. The prostate produces fluid that nourishes and protects sperm as it allows it to be squeezed through the urethra during ejaculation. Basically, the prostate holds a large role in how male ejaculation occurs and what we see as a result.

However, many people are unaware that the prostate is a huge part in male sexual arousal. Some people even call it the male G-spot. Is it? Can it be for you? Of course. Giving sexual arousal to the prostate is commonly called “milking” the prostate because it releases a creamy, white fluid. Even though it probably is easier to milk a cow than a prostate, few are sure of how to do it and where to start.

Here are three suggestions to give him an amazing prostate orgasm:

#1 Get comfortable, use lubricant, and apply pressure! 

Tell your man to lay on his back—they tend to find it enjoyable and comfortable. When experimenting with any anal action, it is important to be well-lubricated so fingers, vibrators, or tongues, (oh my!) could be inserted with ease. If you are using your hand, make sure your fingers are pointing towards the testicles. Hopefully, you’ll get some positive feedback from your partner and when figuring out which spot is most sensitive, apply pressure as you move your fingers downward. This, my friends, is milking the prostate.

#2 Stroke his penis

When approaching orgasm, take one hand and start stroking the penis. Many times, this allows for a man to not just have a quick cum, but instead, have a more steady flow of semen excrete while orgasming. These orgasms tend to be a little longer, a lot more intense, and totally worth a try.

#3 Play with his perineum

For those of you who aren’t ready to insert your own fingers into your rectum or have someone insert them in yours, you could always try feeling the perineum, which is the area underneath the testicles and in between the anus and testicles. This place is a man’s best-kept secret. And ladies and gents, he wants you to find it. It’s there. For some men, it helps increase orgasm when stimulated. How? Rub against it while stroking or blowing his penis and if he groans, you’ll know what I’m talking about.

So for those of you who want to try something new or just need a little shriek in your week, try playing with the underside and inside of your man’s genitals. And please, if you have any questions or want to share how it went for you, feel free to email me at reply@getlusty.com.

Call her Tia Champagne. She's a recent graduate of the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champagne. During her college career, she was part of a volunteer group called the Sexual Health Peers where she bonded with like-minded, sex positive people from various backgrounds and orientations. She has taught workshops on STDs, birth control, safe sex, and relationships. It was one of the highlights of her college career and allowed her to get involved in Planned Parenthood of Illinois in Action. She was a Campaign Organizer who stood for the reproductive rights of women in Illinois.

As a third-wave feminist, she currently works in the makeup industry promoting what she believes in: women should feel and be as beautiful as they want to without scrutiny. She believes in teaching factual and healthy outlooks on sex and relationships as a way to create a sex-positive culture where future generations can thrive.

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